1 Hour. 3 Questions. Best Year!

In today’s video I share a powerful 3 step process to make 2017 the best year of your life. This is a simplified version of a goal setting process I do every year at this time. I LOVE it!

As a bonus, today’s video comes with a present!


How To Lose Body Fat The Easy Way (part 2)

Last year I started a fitness regimen and lost 2.5 stone (22 pounds), dropped to a respectable 12% body fat, gained muscle, never felt better and finally got to see my abs!

These results were achieved under these conditions:

– A hectic schedule from running three business.

– An absurd amount of international travel and long busy days.

– By doing less than 50 minutes of exercise a week and without stepping foot into a gym.

– By giving myself two free days to eat what I like.

– Eating chocolate every day.

Here is part 2 of how I did it:


How To Lose Body Fat The Easy Way (part 1)

Last year I started a fitness regimen where I lost 2.5 stone (22 pounds), dropped to a respectable 12% body fat, gained muscle, never felt better and finally got to see my abs!

These results were achieved under these conditions:

– A hectic schedule from running three business.

– An absurd amount of international travel and long busy days.

– By doing less than 50 minutes of exercise a week and without stepping foot into a gym.

– By giving myself two free days to eat what I like.

– Eating chocolate every day.

Here is part 1 of how I did it: (the link for part 2 is under the video)


Lessons In Happiness From Little Mystics

Before you read this article I need to give you some background. This was written as part of a book I’m writing for my boys Sonnie and Herbie. They are now 14 and 17 but this article takes us back to when they were very young. 

As a parent I decided to document all the lessons they both taught me about happiness, forgiveness, being in the now, my ego, my contradictions – to name a few! 

I soon realised they were both sent to me to be the finest teachers on the planet. Both perfectly matched to give me the exact lessons I needed to live a more spiritual and loving existence.

I can honestly say I didn’t expect that when they were born.

Please comment if you enjoyed this article and if you would like to read more of my lessons. I didn’t really plan to share it publicly but I could be persuaded if you see it as valuable and helpful. I’m sure the boys (teachers) won’t mind either :))

Enjoy…

Down on my knees I am screwing on the hinges of a door for my little boy’s new wardrobe. Frustratingly this simple project of putting up a flat pack wardrobe has already taken up most of the morning!


Modeling Success – How To Get On The Fast Track

Some of us learn from other people’s mistakes; the rest of us have to be the other people.
– Zig Ziglar

Let me start out today’s post with two ‘what if’ questions:

1. What if there was a faster and easier way to achieve the results you’d like to achieve in life?
2. What if there is a way to shorten your learning curve for anything you’d like to master in life?

Would you be interested?

Of course you would… anyone would!

Well, there is and that’s what I want to talk about in today’s video.


Find Your Core Values In 5 Easy Steps

Each of us has our own set of core values that’s as unique as our thumbprint. These core values determine what’s really important to you as an individual.

The surprising thing is, that no matter where we are in life, if you ask most people what their core values are, many would not be able to give you an answer!

Would you?

 

Understanding the Value of Values

Many of the people that come on the ‘Finding Your Smile’ retreat have issues where their values are at the heart of the problem. They come along because they are aware that something’s wrong or missing in their life, but they don’t know what.

Often it’s because they’re unclear on what their core values are and what’s most important to them. Our values help determine our tastes, way of life, entertainment, and social, political and religious interactions. We hold many values, each of which is liable to change as we grow and reach different stages of life.

Many people arrive at a point in their life to find their core values have been suppressed, compromised or ignored completely. For some people, a conflict can arise within them because rather than living a life according to their own core values, they’re living a default life. trying to live according to the values of a company, a religious or political organisation or their friends, colleagues or partner.

In doing this, the values of other people or organisations are being met but the person’s own values are being left unfulfilled.

Paying the Price

As many of my clients have realised, there’s a high price to pay when you don’t know what’s most important to you, when you don’t have clarity around your core values.

It becomes very easy to let external demands and society’s conditionings determine your life. The result is you feel your life has lost its direction, meaning and purpose. Feelings of discomfort and dissatisfaction increase, coupled with a growing restlessness around the need to change something, although you’re not sure what.

This is a high, yet common, price to pay in today’s society. Look into most organisations and you’ll find a large proportion of the work force spending 40-50 hours a week doing work they hate, whilst not knowing what else they should or could do.

From my own experience, I have found there’s a way to tell the degree to which your life is aligned with your values. You know it’s time to reconnect and close the gap when:

• You feel stressed and a sense of being out of control.
• You feel conflict or are torn between the different facets of your life.
• You’re excessively busy with every minute crammed with stuff but feel like you’re getting nowhere.
• You feel drained from constantly rushing to tick off your to do list that just keeps getting longer.
• You feel regretful about what you’ve done in the past.

Mind the Gap!

When I speak to audiences about living their ideal life, we explore the things they’re currently spending their time on and then compare them to the things they consider are really important to them, their core values. Do you think the two are aligned?

No way!! Most people discover a gap (usually one big enough to drive a double decker bus through) between their core values, the things they stand for, and what they’re currently acting on.

Now, it’s simple, we’re either living a life by design, or we are not! Closing the gap between what’s important and how you spend your time is the key to making your life more fulfilling and to free yourself to live to your highest potential.

So what’s the starting point to closing the gap? To simply stop and think! With our busy lives this is easier said than done.

What’s the Value of Knowing your Values?

The good news is that you can change all of this, and the best starting point is to get in touch with your core values.  Fulfilment and contentment lives on the other side of their discovery and integration. By investing time and energy to get clear on your values and life purpose, by defining and articulating what you really want from all areas of your life, and then letting your values govern your decisions, you will live a fulfilling second half of life.

In mid-life it’s essential to question our value system and be prepared to make alterations for the next part of our journey.

How to discover your Core Values in Five Simple Steps…

We are going to apply my three C’s formula to a better life.

• Contemplating
• Choosing
• Committing

Contemplating

Step 1 – Take out your journal, or a blank piece of paper, and write at the top ‘My Core Values.’ Then answer this important life question:

“What, in life, is most important to me?”

Write down whatever comes into you head. A little tip here is not to make any judgments at this stage. Just write everything down no matter how weird, strange, amusing or scary!  You can download my Extended List of Values from this link to help you make connections and insights into your own core values.

Step 2 – Now ask yourself, “What does (value word) mean to me?”

For example you may ask, “What does money mean to me?” To which the answer could be, “money means achievement, security, or freedom.”

By answering this second question you uncover your core or underlying value. In this example money is the means to being an achiever, or being more secure, or being freer. These are the core values.

Choosing

Step 3 – Choose no more than seven values from your total list. These should be the things that are the most important to you in life. Now put your list of values into a hierarchy of what’s most important to least important.

To do this put each word on a separate piece of paper. Now lay all the pieces of paper out in front of you. Looking at all your values ask yourself this question, “If I had to live my life without one of these values, which one would I give up?”

This is often a difficult question to answer because all these values are important. Push yourself to choose and put the one you’re letting go off to the side. Keep asking this question until you’re left with your most important value. Now you have your hierarchy of core values, put them in a place you can see them every day. Write them in bold, bright, big colours. They should be big enough so you can see them from across the other side of the room.

Step 4 – Rewrite your top three values in order on the blanks below. Then for each value, write a definition, a statement of what it means to you to be successful in living that value. At the end of your life, looking back, how will you know if you’ve been successful in that area?

If ‘Family’ is one of your values, how will you know you’ve been successful as a family man or woman? If you put ‘Happiness’ what does that look like to you?

1. Value:
“Success to me means . . .”
2. Value:
“Success to me means . . .”
3. Value:
“Success to me means . . .”

Now merge the three paragraphs together into one overall statement. It could be several sentences, several paragraphs or even a poem. Whatever works for you! Do this now before you carry on.

Congratulations! You’ve just created a core values creed for your life.
Your creed will reflect who you are and what’s important to you. Let your creed become your benchmark, your standard of the best you. Using it will help align your behaviour to your core values. Measure yourself against it and continuously ask yourself if your current activity is moving toward your vision of the good life.

For example, if taking care of my health is important to me, and I eat eight slices of pizza, drink two cans of Coke, and watch five straight hours of television, then I’m not living with integrity. There’s a gap between what I value and my behaviour.

Committing

Step 5 – For this exercise ask yourself, “How does my current life, work, and relationships reflect my core values?”

Over the following week find out how much you are living your core values or personal mission statement. Track the way you are spending your time. Each time you do something that fulfils one of your core values write it down. By the end of the week you should have a few examples under each of your core values.

A word of caution!

It’s not uncommon for some to find that their core values are not reflected in the way they’re living their lives. This can often be the most uncomfortable part of the exercise. Sometimes closing the gap between your core values and the way you currently live your life requires big life changes. I don’t recommend anyone do that without professional help or at the very least a good support network.

I wish you all the best as you begin to take back control of your life and live it being true to yourself.

PS. Speak your mind! Comments are welcome! And, if you’ve found this post useful, give it some Social media love!

PPS. Want to see how to put your values into action? Watch this video, especially at the end where I show you how to use the V+T+P = happiness model. 


Information Overload: How To Instantly Lighten The Load

From time to time someone will write and ask me what strategies I use to handle something that’s drowning most of us – information overload.

Some researchers claim we now create more information every two days than we did from ancient times up to the year 2003. Plus all this information (everything ever published) is merely a click away! Depending on what you search for, there’s likely at least a dozen, if not hundreds, of blogs on the topic, a similar number of books and many more articles.

Living in the information age a good thing, but it also can overload our sponge like brains!


How To Take A Real Vacation From Work – 7 Top Tips To Make Reentry Hard!

Copyright: damedeeso / 123RF Stock Photo

Based on the title of this blog post, you might be thinking, are you serious? Who needs to know how to take a real vacation from work?

It’s a fair challenge, so let me ask you, when was the last time you took a real (with a capital R) vacation?

I’ve asked this simple question to a number of senior execs I work with and the type of the responses I get have been:

“What is a real vacation?”

“Years ago!”

“When I retire, 6 years from now!”

It appears the challenge of taking a good restorative break has become a lost art for many of us who spend most of our waking hours in the working world.

For years, I had no idea how to take a proper break and it appears I’m not alone! To leave the world of work behind and take time off is not something that comes naturally for the modern day work culture. And, surprisingly, there doesn’t seem to be any place to go to learn how. No workshops appear on any company’s learning and development curriculum with the enticing titles like, How to slip the tether of work whilst you are away or How to escape the orbit of the office to get some real R&R or How to stop feeling overwhelmingly guilty about completely unplugging for the office for two weeks.

I Can’t Leave Work Behind!

Holidays are supposed to represent an opportunity to get away from the pressures of day-to-day working life, but there is plenty of research to show that millions of us are unable to leave our work behind (even for a short period).

One report from AlphaRooms, suggests that 20 million Brits think it is NECESSARY to take their work away with them.

Two-thirds of those questioned admitted that they had experienced a work interruption while relaxing on holiday.

Another 80 per cent said they had worried about work while enjoying a well-deserved break, which perhaps defeats the object of going away in the first place.

Technology appears to have a great deal to do with this trend, with a third of people taking their laptop and smartphone on holiday with them.

Some three-quarters of those surveyed revealed that they had made or taken a work phone call while ostensibly ‘getting away from it all’ and 60 per cent have sent a work-related email.

A survey by Expedia , showed on average, Americans forfeit $34.3 billion in vacation days. Many U.S. workers earn 14 days off, they take only as many as 12. Those mere two days add up to 226 million vacation days unused by overworked Americans.

Shocking, but I know I’ve been one of these statistics!

I’ve taken phone calls from the office with my feet in the sea or, excused myself from queues at theme parks to check my emails or, bashed out a proposal in the shade by the pool and, if I’m honest, more out of habit more than necessity. I’ve treated my laptop and mobile like an important family member, taking them everywhere with me and tethering myself to the daily affairs of work.

Reentry into the world of work was never a problem for me, since I never really escaped it in the first place. Until, taking our year out and living on the Island of Fuerteventura, that is, when I did go off to a place where I slipped the tether of work completely.

Hitting Civilisation

Each day on the Island moved me further and further away from work, transporting me to an even more tranquil state of mind, unpreturbed by anything outside of our family unit.

Eight months into our family year out we flew to Sotogrande in Spain to check out the International School. In a mere two and a half hours, we had left the peace and tranquility we’d become so accustomed to for the hustle and bustle of a busy, noisy Madrid airport.

People brushed past us in a furious hurry and rush. Women were decked out in the latest fashion and designer brands. Men dressed in suits and ties, clutching mobiles, laptops and palm pilots, eagerly checked their watches.

Everybody’s life seemed reduced to the clock. It was noisy and claustrophobic. We froze up! Too much, too fast. We began to panic. We quickly retreated to the far end of the terminal where there was less noise and busyness. This gave us the breathing space we needed before boarding our next flight to Malaga.

I hadn’t known to expect this. The eight months out had been cathartic not only for my work life but my ordinary life too. It had never occurred to me that the life as we live it is not entirely nontoxic. Reentering life at that moment, I felt as if I’d swallowed some poison. It was obvious reentry was going to be harder than anticipated.

The BIG ha, ha!

Life had presented me with an important “ha, ha” moment! I suddenly appreciated the rejuvenating effect the year was having on my mind, body and spirit, but understood, at the same moment, the paradox of a real vacation –

If reentry isn’t hard , then I haven’t really been away.

This experience helped me realise that for each of us to get the lasting effect of a break (even if it’s just a few days), we must find a way to make it possible for the restorative effects of breaks to have an impact in our everyday lives. Otherwise we quickly lose the important benefits to the mind, body and spirit immediately upon reentry.

This lesson has made me more conscious of the need for balance and perspective. It’s a sensibility I still work at keeping to this day.

What about YOU? Do you find reentry easy or difficult?

If it’s too easy for you, use these 7 tops tips to make reentry hard:

1. Decompress – It might take a couple of days to disengage from the stress of your demanding career, so take a little time to unwind. Sit still. Take a timeout. Give yourself permission to decompress. Turn the smartphone and laptop off (what a novel idea!). Experiencing “white space” can be scary for some ‘have to be doing’ types but you’ll soon feel its wonderful rejuvenating effects.

2. Sleep – You’ve probably missed this important aspect of life, true? Don’t beat yourself up if you sleep in or feel like hitting the sack early. This privilege you have earned. Max out on it!

3. Make Fun a Priority – Whether it is a trip to the beach with a fun novel or night out dancing like John Travolta, it is time to have some fun, let your hair down and have a laugh. This is the perfect time to stop taking yourself too seriously (something many of us do too much in the corporate world) and let fun be the guide. Don’t short cut this one!

4. Reflect on Your Future – Once you have relaxed a bit and eased into your summer break, use the time to consider where your life is headed and if you need to make a mid course correction.

5. Consider Doing Nothing at All – Ah, this is my favourite summer holiday route. Being a consultant can be an all consuming occupation that requires you to be “on” at all times. Why not treat yourself to blissful act of just doing nothing?

6. Experiment – Holidays are a great time to try new ways of being. If you’re normally a ‘clock watcher,’ then take it off and go with the flow. If you’re a planner, then try being spontaneous and see where it leads you. If you like know where you are going, practice being lost! If you like the safety of your comfort zone (or dead zone) then step out of it and get that feeling of aliveness by doing something that scares you.

7. Enjoy – When you are on holiday think of nothing else but your holiday. If it’s a possibility, leave your work mobile and laptop at home (if you really have to bring your smartphone then discipline yourself to the amount of time you use it). Let go of all the concerns for a week or two. Leave behind all the office politics, the lists that never get completed, or those nagging doubts about your childcare arrangements and connect with what really matters – maxing out on the ‘glad to be alive’ feeling.

You deserve it. Besides your office will still be there when you get back.

Let’s raise a glass to making reentry hard on your next vacation – I’m planning mine to be!

Did you enjoy this post? Please comment & share by clicking on the ‘funky face” icons below. Thanks.


How To Be Happy (Part 8) – Controlling Your Focus

Hey, give me your mental attention for a moment and it will make you happier (I promise).

Much of the level of happiness in your life depends not on beauty nor brains, fame nor fortune, fate nor coincidence, but on what you choose to mentally focus on.

From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep, you are selectively focusing on something in your experience, and much more often than you may suspect, you can take charge of this process to good effect.

Life is not about becoming free of problems and challenges so you can be happier, rather it is about becoming better at shifting perspectives to bring about a better experience. It’s your response to life’s problems that determines the level and frequency of your happiness.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
— Wayne Dyer

HOW you experience the challenges life throws up is a more significant factor in your happiness than WHAT challenges you experience. Indeed, your ability to focus is the key to controlling your experience and, ultimately, your happiness.

Happiness is a choice. It’s what you choose to focus on and give meaning to and in today’s video I show you three specific places to put your focus for the ultimate happiness experience.

When you find yourself lost on your path to happiness, it may be time to pause and refocus.

Enjoy today’s video and please help spread the word if you like it!


If you enjoy today’s video I would be humbled if you’d take these two quick actions:

FIRST – Hit one of the funky buttons below the video and post this page on your favourite social media platform (please help others and spread the word).

SECOND – Are you part of the Facebook community yet? If not, click the ‘like’ button opposite and join in the conversation. I love to hear your thoughts and results.


How To Be Happy (Part 7) – Negative Thinking – How To Change It Fast!

Can you think of any goals and desires you REALLY want but you’re not taking action on?

Like the desire to be happy or financially independent or to find a life partner.

So what’s stopping you?

It’s key to realise the most important person who speaks to you every minute of every day is you on the inside – your beliefs!

This might lead you to think, “How do I know what I believe Colin?

The short answer is to pay attention to the words you speak.

Especially when you hear two words because these two words that are the driving force behind you achieving any of your greatest desires.

These two words are the most powerful words you ever speak to yourself about any goal you have.

The two words?

“CAN” and “CAN’T”

How many times have you approached a new project, job, relationship, basically anything that has not been previously proven possible by yourself with a doubting negative attitude, an attitude of “I can’t do this,” or, “This is going to be difficult.”

I know there have been many – more than I care to remember – times when I have let a “I can’t” belief hold me back from realising a goal or desire. Often, I was not even aware of the inner resistance hidden deep in my subconscious, running the show from the background and ultimately destroying of the very thing I desired.

“The greatest disintegrating element in the human consciousness is resistance.”
~Charles Fillmore

Take a moment, right now, to imagine how your life would be different if you approached any desire you have with an attitude of “I can.”

How would that feel? How would that change the way you approach your goals?

So what can you do about this inner resistance? Can you change it?

The answer is yes and in today’s video I’ll show you a technique to interrupt any habitual negative “I can’t” belief and change it in to a positive “I can” belief using a three letter word.

It’s fun, it’s simple and it’s life changing.

Enjoy today’s video and please help spread the word if you like it!


If you enjoy today’s video I would be humbled if you’d take these two quick actions:

FIRST– Hit one of the funky buttons below the video and post this page on your favourite social media platform (please help others and spread the word).

SECOND – Are you part of the Facebook community yet? If not, click the ‘like’ button opposite and join in the conversation. I love to hear your thoughts and results.


Page 1 of 3123

GET MIND POWER TRAINING FREE

Latest Tweets